on early pregnancy

  more than ten of my batch-mates got pregnant, 2 of them are my close friends.... now what's the matter??

  an eye-opening statement/ dialogue between a mother and a daughter from an instant noodle tv ad: 

" ma, mahirap po bang magbuntis?"

" anak, mas mahirap maging ina."

   government, private and public sectors and agencies are finding ways to prevent teenage pregnancy among women. yet the rate of teenage moms in our society is still ballooning. now, what is the cause? what are the consequences? who are to be blamed? how can we prevent early teenage pregnancy?

   a friend of mine told me that one of my friend just delivered her baby last week and would like to have me as a godmother for her child. wow.. take it easy, I'm not even aware, i was all shocked. just last year i had a sensible conversation with her about our future plans and ambitions, the things we'll do to accomplish them all, and now this, she already got a baby and stopped schooling. where did you put your plans dude? in your pocket?? or inside that condom left in your pocket, which you should have used before you let him enter the kingdom of your genitals. 

  
   i was all confused and regretful about the news, not that i don't like the baby. she's an angel. but the fact that she had her before she is ready filled me with regret and even fear for the baby, for their future. it's like walking on a quicksand of uncertainty. she still have no plans for the both of them. but, as they say, what can we do?? the baby is there. we can't put her back to the womb, shrink back to her former embryo, and spill her out. that is so rude for me to say. but, i am rude.

   i asked her about the father. she said that he has no job and, similar to her, he hadn't finished his studies. i didn't asked further about the wrenched guy but instead encouraged her not to be independent with that man. i suggested her not to be married. i think they should take to consideration the welfare of the baby before anything else. also marriage will just divide the expenses that should be reserved for the child.

   i love the baby and i love her too and because i love them so much i want her to make wise plans for them. i told her to continue her studies maybe a year after the pregnancy. leave the child by day to her parents and go to school. finish her studies and look for a decent job after. 

   the statement from the TV ad is true. it is not difficult to labor a child but to be a mother. especially to be a single mother slash student. according to the TV ad, one of the major causes of teenage pregnancy is the lack of guidance from the child's parents and i say it's true. more and more cases of teenage pregnancy are on urban places, the more industrialized places. due to the parents' job , they tend to neglect their children and rare give them proper guidance.

   i just remember a scene from a telenovela when the mother scold her child for being pregnant an early age. 

 "i had given you everything! everything that you want! we even work hard just to send you to an expensive private university... and this.. this is what you gave us in return!? you got pregnant?! what will you do with your studies?? we have big dreams for you! where did we went wrong?? where did we failed??"

   the child was just sobbing the whole time.

   children seeks attention but they get less because their parents are too busy on their work. thus, the children as they grow will seek attention from the peers they are into. peers who, like him, are also neglected by their parents. from there, they will make unwise decisions and eventually lead to unwanted or i say unlikable circumstances like early pregnancy. the TV ad wants to convey that proper guidance and conversations with children will lead them to right decision making. it's okay to work and provide the material needs of the children for they are essential. but, also they should not forget the other needs of their child, like love and care, security and self-esteem. things that cannot be bought by money. but can be given through attention and constant communication.